Self–sabotage can ruin a person’s life and dreams. When you allow You to sabotage your true desires with negative self-talk, over-indulgence in activities that are ‘tension relieving’ and not ‘goal achieving’, fears, procrastination or feelings of worthlessness, you are giving in to a Lower Power that holds you. To climb out of the rut and use your Higher Power means to change your self-talk to be positive and loving. Self-love is one of the greatest, kindest things people can do for themselves.
Self-sabotage can stem from deep-seated issues of the heart or traumas during infancy and childhood. Sometimes these issues are deeply buried in the sub-conscious mind. Something that someone has said or done can affect a toddler, for example, and a toddler only has a certain level of comprehending a situation. It may seem like nothing to the adult, but to a child at their level of development it may seem like they are not good enough to deserve a different outcome.
Ways that people sabotage themselves:
1. Giving away your power to others and asking them what you should do.
2. Worrying about how your wishes and desires will come true.
3. Thinking that you have dues to pay, and that it is your destiny to suffer.
4. Being attached to unimportant details and outcomes.
5. Thinking that karma and/or spiritual contracts are absolute. Everything can be changed.
6. Having fear of anything, especially falling in love.
7. Believing that everything is due to fate, and waiting for your fate to line up before acting.
8. Choosing to be static, and not doing anything to make changes so you will be happy.
9. Creating addictions. This is usually connected with core issues.
10. Giving up on getting your needs met.
If you could have or be anything you wanted in the whole world, and you knew that you could not fail, what would that be? Imagine your best scenario… your best scene in your movie. Everything is possible. If you can perceive it and believe it, then you can achieve it.
The saboteur is usually a dominant intellectual character within us. It is the part of us that is judgmental and wants to be in control. This saboteur places our feeling character last. The feeling character is the part of us that is the romantic or our Inner Child. For example, I have a saboteur who wants to work all the time, and does not want to make time to go workout or be outdoors hiking and enjoying nature. That part of me thinks that I’m wasting valuable time by taking time off to “play”. Well, the fact is that if I don’t take that time to do enjoyable, healing things, then I’m less productive when I am working. Not only that, but also my joy and happiness declines, my sleep declines and I’m not as intuitive and clairvoyant.
Everyone needs to have balance in his or her life. The saboteur within us can sabotage our career, relationships and joy by creating stupid mistakes or by procrastinating. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to put your saboteur in its place. Don’t ever feel guilty about pursuing your dreams, taking time off or falling in love. Listen to your intuitive, inner guidance, and be kind to yourself. Don’t ignore your own needs, and allow your Inner Child to take charge now and then. Have your sub personality’s work together as an alliance. Each one can be happy, and still give in to the other personality’s needs.
If you would like to learn more about your sub personalities then read the book, Talking to My Selves by Debbie Unterman, AH, Cl.Ht. Either you can purchase it in my office, or in my LightHealer Store on my website at www.LightHealer.net